Maintaining Sexual Health and Intimacy as we Age


It’s Dr. DRAI- I’m back. Now you know I want to make sure that you ladies are taking good care of yourselves and maintaining your sexual health well past your youthful days. It would be nice if we could stay young forever but we can’t. However, if we take care of ourselves now, we can be ensured a satisfying sex life for years to come.

Some people believe that once a person reaches the older adult age range, he will no longer show any interest in doing the things he used to enjoy such as sex and intimacy. This is untrue, of course, for the need for intimacy has no age limits. A person’s hunger for affection, intimacy, and emotional bond with another person is limitless.      

However, there are still a significant number of older men and women who no longer have a fulfilling and happy sexual and intimate relationship with their partner. When a person doesn’t have a healthy physical and emotional relationship with someone, he or she may suffer from low self-esteem and poor physical health. 

What causes poor sexual health?

As one ages, his body experiences physical and physiological changes that can affect his sexual health and relationship with another person. 

Common physical changes

  • When a woman ages, she will eventually experience physical changes in the body that can be attributed to hormonal imbalance and menopause. For instance, the vagina takes a longer time to lubricate and swell when aroused. This physical change can make intercourse painful, thus, resulting in decreased or loss of interest in sex.
  • In men, the most common physical change is difficulty in achieving and maintaining an erection. Erections do not last long and are less firm.

Common physiological changes 

  • The mind also experiences certain changes as individual ages. These changes can also significantly affect one’s sexual stamina or desire for sex. If an adult person is ashamed of his sexual needs and preferences, then it may probably lead to aversion from sex.
  • Also, when one notices gray hairs and wrinkles on his or her face, the tendency is that he or she may feel less attractive, thus, reducing his or her sexual drive. Another common physiological change associated with aging is stress. When an aging individual worry too much about his sexual performance, this often leads to impotence for men and a decreased desire to have sex for women.

So, how can you improve your sexual health?

Aging adults can improve and maintain their sexual health and stamina. However, it requires serious communication in the relationship if one wants to improve and maintain his or her sex life. The following are a couple of helpful tips on how aging adults can improve their sexual health:

  1. There is more to sex than just penetration – Remember that intimate gestures such as touching and holding hands are a perfect alternative to sex. Oral sex, masturbation, and sensual massage are also great substitutes for penetrative sex.
  1. Keep your body healthy and well-tuned – Maintaining a healthy and fit body keeps a person’s body ready for sex. As such, it is highly advised to aging men and women to eat a well-balanced diet that includes veggies and fruits. Exercising also helps greatly.
  1. Level your expectations – older men and women who have a poor or stagnant sex life are usually the ones who engaged in less sexual activities during their younger years. On the other hand, it is contrary to partners who have active sex lives during their younger years, for they will be able to maintain their sexual stamina even when they get older.

Keep your body healthy and your mind open. See your doctor for any help you need with menopausal symptoms. And of course, stay safe. Until next time #GYNEGirls and #Preggos… 


Dr. Draion M. Burch, DO (Dr. Drai) – a highly respected, board-certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist – is a nationally-recognized author, speaker, consultant, and go-to media expert on women’s health and transgender health issues. He travels the country to meet with women one-on-one and in groups to provide and instruct on healthcare. Although Dr. Drai may be requested to spread his medical expertise to all four corners of the U.S., he always makes time to genuinely help those in need. As a pragmatic physician who offers endless charisma, high energy, and a larger-than-life personality, his “bedside manner” makes it obvious why his patients have named Dr. Drai “America’s OBGYN.” Dr. Drai is the founder and chief medical advisor of, where he discusses actionable ideas and real-world strategies to help women take control of their health. As an openly gay gynecologist he has patients flocking to him and his website for not only his medical expertise, but because of the security they feel in the way he cares for, relates to, and teaches women about subjects ranging from embarrassing vaginal care to serious sexual assault. His mission: Real medical advice, simplified. Dr. Drai takes his unique brand to the camera on his YouTube channel to spill his popular “Medical T” (TIPS) helping his self-titled #Preggos, #GYNEGirls and #GENTs pursue a healthier life. Dr. Drai’s on-point advice on off-the-wall questions about sexual health issues has many calling him a “sexpert.” Dr. Drai earned his Doctorate of Osteopathic Medicine degree from The Ohio University and completed his internship and residency at Michigan State University.


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