Are you married? If you are, are you currently satisfied with the level and amount of intimacy that you receive? If you are not, you may want to take action right away. Although marriage should not be built on sex, it is still an important component.

Unfortunately, when it comes to intimacy and not receiving enough of it, many husbands and wives automatically think that their marriage is over. Why? Because many believe that a poor level of intimacy is a sign of boredom or a lack of love. Yes, this can be true in some cases, but not always.

What you need to realize about intimacy is that there are a number of reasons why problems occur. Just because your husband or wife does not want to be intimate with you or if they act like they want to get through the whole experience as quickly as possible, it does not mean that there is something wrong with you. There may be other issues to blame, other issues that may require professional help.

Some men and women just have low sex drives. They may have always been this way or their need may have decreased with age. In these types of situations, professional help is advised. Some men and women can try their hardest, but they still aren’t interested in getting intimate with their spouses, no matter how much they do love and cherish them.

If you suspect that you or your partner has a decreased sex drive, medical attention is advised. It is important to know that there are many solutions to the problem. Both men and women can use medication to revive their sexual wants and needs.

Speaking of medication, did you also know that medication can be to blame? Some prescription medications have side effects that include a decreased sex drive.

If there is no physical or emotional reason for your lack of intimacy, such as depression or a low sex drive, professional help is still advised. This is particularly true if you are married. Marriages should be worth saving. You and your spouse are encouraged to attend marriage counseling together. After a close examination, you may find a ton of other reasons why your intimacy isn’t what it should be. These additional reasons may include being concerned with work or being concerned with money. A marriage counselor can help you work through those concerns, which may help to improve the level and amount of intimacy that you receive at home.

Even though there are times when professional help is needed to improve intimacy in a marriage, there are many individuals and couples who opt not to seek professional help, often due to embarrassment. If you are embarrassed, it is important to remember that
problems with intimacy are very common in a marriage, especially a long-term marriage. Do not be afraid to seek professional help.

As a recap, if you are unsatisfied with the current level of intimacy that you are receiving in your marriage, professional help may be needed. There may be an underlying issue that needs to be discussed or treated. Don’t let your fear of embarrassment hold back you or your relationship.

Until next time #GYNEGirls and #Preggos…

Dr. Drai